Monday, October 03, 2011

Books: Who or what are you to me?

In I Samuel 8 the faithless Israelites stoop to a new low: they beg God to appoint over them a king. God reasons with them that a king will not treat them as fairly and as faithfully as He will, but they are convinced this is what they need to truly thrive as a nation. And so the history of Israel (and the off-shoot Judah) becomes a chronicle of faithless deeds, evil, abandonment of their True God as well God’s constant redemption of the mess they have made. It’s a frustrating saga of a people that just didn’t get it.

Their story is our story. Their stubbornness and pride is ours as we approach God. I want life to be easy, not messy and I have many excuses for not taking the time to learn and grow directly from God. I want a pastor, a preacher, a book writer to eat of the Word, chew it up and spit it out to me in a more palatable chunk of encouragement.

When it comes to your life, who is your king that you have crowned over God?
These thoughts come to me in the wake being asked to review a book called One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp. It’s a New York Times bestseller and is popular for many good reasons. Voskamp is easy to relate to. Her views from the trenches of Christian faith (through human suffering) are familiar. Losing her little sister at a young age starts the journey of finding God in the brokenness and heartache of life. If you cannot relate to deep loss, you might relate to her as a parent (although in this day and age, being a homeschooling mom of six certainly puts her in her own award-winning category!) or as a sojourner of faith, restless with a status quo life; living a satisfied dissatisfaction as she salivates and hungers for more of the spiritual life we are promised in the Word.

The book is well praised as to its style and poetic offerings. Her stories are relevant and revelatory. The book is also reviewed by some as having some minor theological confusion; but it’s unanimous that her heart is clear and steady and therefore the issues are sidelined for the meat and potatoes being offered on more important things like grace, thanksgiving and joy. The book is not without some controversy on a chapter where more graphic illusions to intercourse and intimacy are aligned with our relationship with God. But the biggest controversy for me goes back to that passage in I Samuel. Thousands and thousands of people have had a life change from reading this book – reminiscent of The Shack by William P. Young and many others like it.

You see, the scripture verses and the journey to discovery that these writers have found is available to all of us, but reading about seems to be a favoured way that the masses consume a spiritual experience. Don’t bother living your own spiritual life, you can borrow mine if I write a blog, or a book or preach a sermon. It’s a part of our modern day church consumerism that will likely have people jumping from fix to fix  - from one best seller to the next.

Who is your king? Is it the King of Kings who beckons us at every moment of the day to be solely dependant upon Him?

I believe that fellowship can come in different forms – it can come from coffee with friends, gathering for church, an email from far away, or reading a book from a believer you will likely never meet, but does it complement our daily, momentary efforts to commune with God, or does it eclipse the true source of our Life and substitute it with a baby food version of it.

A thousand gifts, written as a list of one thousand blessings in Voskamp’s life, can enrich your life because it is bathed in scripture and it points to Jesus. Read it and be blessed by it. Use discernment as you thumb its pages because it isn’t Scripture, and therefore flawed. Allow your true devotional time to be spent digging into the Word and your own journey of faith so that your life is authentic, like hers. This challenge reminds me of the opening pages of an extraordinary book by Jackie Pullinger called Chasing the Dragon. Before she even writes one word of her own story, she writes this: “Go! Write your own books. Go!”

Saturday, September 10, 2011

First Loves (A Tribute)

I spent the first year of my life falling in love with my mother's face.

It was the first bond I ever knew.

At 4am my little girl stirring startled me out of the most wonderful dream...
I was back in Italy again with HER. The lovely thing was that it felt completely normal to be there together. My mom and I were walking down the street and met up with our favorite Italian, Rosa. We found her and gave her a hug. The sun was shining, my heart was warm and I looked at them and mentioned how perfect it was that the three of us were back together again. We kept walking and Rosa turned the corner and my mom held me back and with a laugh told me she bought me a gift.

The shining sun snapped to dark and I was back in my room with a hungry Isabella waking up.
I burst into tears, sobbing, and picked up my helpless little girl and helped her to my chest.

You see, its a bond that has not been broken - it's still there body and soul. Every time she held me in her arms, or to her breast, I was falling more in love with her face, the sound of her voice, the smell and touch of her skin. There are only a few other things in life that made as much sense to me as my mother's love. It was a warm space around me physically, emotionally, intellectually, socially and spiritually.

That is why my heart is broken. That is why I will never get over it or stop missing my mom.

It turns out Isabella is a faker. She took one sip of milk and went back to sleep making her funny little faces while she snoozed. She just wanted to be close to me as she slept. Safe, loved.
Will this little one have the chance to fall in love with me the way I fell in love with my mom?
I hope she never has to feel this pain I feel: sitting in bed with a new baby, wondering how 31 years of a mother's physical presence went by so fast; and how empty life feels without her.

I wish I could just snuggle in her arms, or look at her face, or, or, or.....

Saturday, August 06, 2011

The Good News

Recently a friend of mine posted an article that had a real impact on me. It was about a ring of child pornographers that had been busted and brought to justice. The story was victorious in that very evil people were caught and stopped, but it was very tragic on the other hand in that the article explained the evil that was being committed, and it was heart-wrenching and difficult to bear. Children are born into sin, but there is an innocence that they possess to things like violence, cruelty, sexual perversion, and other evils that make them the saddest victim on the planet. Not only do we desire to protect them because they are little and vulnerable, but we feel sick to think of that innocence being taken from them.

Looking back, I feel there was an inevitable innocence that is lost as I have grown up. A part of it is totally natural - I was meant to come into an understanding of good and evil and to be accountable to that knowledge, but I also believe that I have been bombarded with, and have chosen to be exposed to images, stories, and situations that have put an unnecessary burden on my mind and heart. I am so grateful that I have a relationship with God that is real and effective and He can restore in my heart & mind broken, fearful, and hurting places.

And so when I was originally overwhelmed by the sadness of the story of the abused children in that article, I went to God, pleading with Him to ease my mind from the distress (not only pain for the children that are and have been victims, but also fear for the safety of my own child and the children of my family and friends). God told me a couple of things that were so assuring and I wanted to share them with you. First of all, He told me that to worry frantically about these things is "above my paygrade". God is the one that is in control - He is Father God and He is the Master and Commander of the Universe. All of those job titles assure me that He is much better equipped to carry the burden of these situations than I am. In fact, I believe He was the one that orchestrated the justice brought in this horrifying situation, which I would have never been able to accomplish! He is the defender of the weak and vulnerable.

I will also never understand His whole plan for the world and all those that are in it from the dawn of time until He calls us all home to glory. So although I hear about unspeakable pain and suffering and think it overwhelming, He sees the big picture and it makes sense to Him.

The other thing He told me is that His plan has Redemption and Love at the heart of it. What happens on this earth is not the conclusion of the story. The real story has to do with a Father allowing His only son Jesus to suffer a horrifying death in order to herald the true end of the story: Victory and Eternal Life. It's a love story, and although it has bumps and bruises along the way, it is all to bring about the eternal redemption that we all need.

So when I pleaded with God about what I could do to save these children and other children from such despicable harm, He told me "share the Gospel". The Gospel is the only answer to sin and evil. No amount of programming or money can do more than what the Gospel does to someone who has given themselves over to such evil, they would harm or take another life. Nothing more powerful or healing than the Gospel to a wounded and broken person who has had everything taken from them.

With all the "ratings" that bad news attracts, it is easy to forget that there is good news all around us, and all over the world that we don't get to hear about. It's the news of the Gospel spreading to hearts all over the globe and people being reconciled with their Creator, and being healed and made whole even despite their life circumstances. The JOY that comes with the Gospel is the privilege that we get to share it if we know the story of the Gospel, and truly believe it to be GOOD NEWS!

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Speak Life, Be Teachable, Cultivate JOY

Meditations from Proverbs 15

Speak Life:
A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.


The soothing tongue is a tree of life,
but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.


A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict,
but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.


A person finds joy in giving an apt reply—
and how good is a timely word!


The heart of the righteous weighs its answers,
but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.


Light in a messenger’s eyes brings joy to the heart,
and good news gives health to the bones.


Be Teachable:
A fool spurns a parent’s discipline,
but whoever heeds correction shows prudence.


Stern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path;
the one who hates correction will die.


Mockers resent correction,
so they avoid the wise.


Plans fail for lack of counsel,
but with many advisers they succeed.


Whoever heeds life-giving correction
will be at home among the wise.


Those who disregard discipline despise themselves,
but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.


Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD,
and humility comes before honor.


Cultivate Joy:
A happy heart makes the face cheerful,
but heartache crushes the spirit.


Better a little with the fear of the LORD
than great wealth with turmoil.


Better a small serving of vegetables with love
than a fattened calf with hatred.


A person finds joy in giving an apt reply—
and how good is a timely word!


Light in a messenger’s eyes brings joy to the heart,
and good news gives health to the bones.

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Speaker & Facilitator

If you need a speaker or a facilitator for your next event, I am available to speak on any of the following topics:
  • Sexuality from a biblical perspective for a primarily Christian audience, as well as an approach on sexuality from a more traditional, responsible perspective for non-Christians
  • Abortion issues (post-abortion stress disorder, philosophical debates, pro-life/pro-choice)
  • Parenting (new parents, parents of pre-teens and teens)
  • Health - eating right, exercise, a sustainable, healthy lifestyle
  • Going green - how to be a good steward of the earth and live in a more non-toxic environment
  • Being a Christian woman without compromising on some of the hard scriptures relating to women and wives
  • Marriage - from the perspective of being a biblical wife
  • God's love and acceptance through the lens of grace

My teaching style is to incorporate visual images to include all learning styles, to be interactive with my audience if feasible, and to use stories and humour.


I have references available upon request. Here are some of the places I have shared my speaking and facilitating skills:

  
Camosun College

Boys & Girls Club (Comox Valley & Victoria)

Arbutus Christian Fellowship Church

Youth With a Mission Victoria

Pacific Rim Alliance Youth

Greater Victoria Christian Academy

Glad Tidings Youth

New Life Baptist Youth

St Matthias

Friday, January 21, 2011

Recipes

Hi all,

I have started a new blog of recipes, favorite products, recipes books, etc

stupideasyrecipes.blogspot.com

You can follow either blogs by subscribing on the links on this home page.

Looking forward to sharing with you and hearing from you!

Miriam

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

For the generations to follow...

Grow!
Choose the hard road; never take ways that are easy. Press in to a trial, knowing that character connects you to the whole world. Learn to love difficult people;
be responsible for yourself, don't blame anyone else. Never procrastinate or make excuses;
put your hands and your mind to each task given to you.

Try something new at least once a year; learn to enjoy your own company;
be remembered as being a joyful servant;
make respectful choices for your mind, your body and your soul.
Let go of competition; marvel at other people's gifts, it liberates people to enjoy yours.

Be loyal; even when your friends/family go through seasons of being completely unlovable, waiting it out will be its own reward.
Keep your word. may it be a compass people can orient themselves to.

In all things, be motivated by Love. Even if you have been wronged severely. Because everything is wrapped up in Love personified: Jesus Christ.

If you had to say something to the next generation from your own experience, what would it be?

Introducing "They"

Ever wondered who "they" from "they say..." are? Well I think it's these guys.